In an effort to figure out how to add “starting a blog” to my list of things to do in a day, I’ve been reading Laura Vanderkam’s book, I Know How She Does It: How Successful Women Make the Most of Their Time.
I’m not sure I buy in to all of her advice (“Don’t like working 60 hour work weeks? Maybe you should get a more interesting job!” Or: “Commuting doesn’t count as work time because you could potentially stop to buy milk on the way home, and that’s shopping!”), but before I completely gave up on it, I did find one piece of advice I liked.
In the section called “Be There,” she lists the ten secrets of happier parenting. There are a number of them that jive with the mission of this blog, like “Be active together” and “Plan adventures.” But the one has potential to be used almost every day: “Think through your weekday evenings.”
For many of us, the typical weekday evening might be something we try to avoid thinking about: the rush to get dinner on the table, finishing up homework, getting to the ball field on time.
But Vanderkam’s suggestion is to spend just a little time creating an intention for your evening – with input from your other family members. By planning ahead, and visualizing what could be done with your evening time before you’re exhausted and hungry, you can see where pockets of time might exist, and mentally prepare yourself for squeezing in a little activity.
Maybe there’s time for everyone to take a walk before dinner?
Is there time to check out the veggie garden and see what can be added to the salad? How about bringing a jump rope or ball instead of the tablet to a sibling’s sports practice? Has it been a while since you had a family dance party?
Even if what you really need to do is chores, make a plan to make it fun: Crank up the music and have a race to pick up clutter. Or celebrate the end of laundry sorting with a sock snowball fight.
Without a plan, chances are everyone goes from the table to the couch – or their separate rooms. So see if you can spend just a few minutes early in the day (or even on Sunday night) thinking about what you want your evenings to really be like.